I deal with many types of people every day in my line of work. Personalities from one end of the spectrum to the other. I always try to see the best in everyone and I keep that opinion until they give me a reason to think otherwise.
Recently I have been disappointed by people that I had thought the best of and I can tell you that nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the people you thought you could trust and that you thought would never let you down.
I really don’t even set the bar that high. You treat me right. I treat you right. I continue to think the best of you. That is the way it is supposed to be.
It has been very disappointing to me to find out that people are often not what they seem to be. Oh, I am old enough to have figured that out for myself a long time ago. But each time it happens it becomes more disappointing and more discouraging.
I can’t remember another time when so many were so angry and so dishonest about so many things. And accusatory. Since when do we accuse people before we even get to know them and to form judgements without interaction?
Many people blame our disappointments on social media. “It is very easy to say things and be mean to people when you don’t have to look them in the eye,” I am told. Maybe that is true. But maybe our disappointment (mine anyway) comes from still expecting people to be Iowa nice and open and honest about the things they say and do.
Our expectations of others haven’t changed so the disappointments are bigger and more hurtful. I definitely don’t think I can change it by writing this column, but if one person could truly understand another person’s disappointment in them, maybe it could end here.
One of my good friends keeps telling me that no good deed goes unpunished. I used to think that he was a little cynical. Now, I am not so sure he isn’t on to something.
What I do know is that I can tell you very readily that the next person that walks through my door will be given the same benefit I have always given. I will think they are a good person and try everything I can to keep that opinion of them. I will give them all the help and guidance I can because I refuse to give up trying. Disappointed or not.